You want a lifetime of love, support, connection and a relationship that stands on solid ground. One that you can rely on and grow with as you move through life.
Maybe your relationship hasn’t been feeling right for a while.
Maybe you don’t feel like you are on the same team anymore. The problems and the differences have gotten between you, pushing you further away from each other. Instead of fighting to resolve life’s difficulties together side by side, you feel alone in the relationship.
Maybe now you have mixed feelings and doubts about wanting the relationship to work out. By the time you decide to take the step towards couples therapy, there is typically built-up tension and resentment and unresolved issues. Hurtful things may have been said when emotions were high. As a couple, there has been a loss of intimacy, affection, and admiration.
In couples therapy, we will work together to break the cycle of attack and isolation, to restore love, connection, and intimacy.
By repairing the relationship you will reconnect with the one you love. You will learn to have the same conversations in a healthier manner to get the best results. You will build a stronger connection with your partner, which will enrich your life.
No relationship is perfect. But, when you avoid the issues they tend to pile up and lead to explosive arguments that cause more disconnection and resentment in the relationship. We will discover the unhealthy cycle caused by misinterpretations and projections of feelings, to engage honest and empathetic ways to relate and connect. The ultimate goal of therapy is to get you and your partner on the same team working together instead of against each other.
When you seek support for Couples therapy from Dr. Boduryan
- You will learn to put the problem in front of you rather than between you
- You will strengthen the compassion, empathy, and understanding of each other’s feelings and experiences.
- You will learn to hold each other accountable without shaming or blaming.
- You will learn to resolve conflicts which will bring you closer.
- You will create stability in your relationship that will last a lifetime.
- You will enjoy each other’s company again.
The Couples Therapy Process
Attending couple’s therapy does not need to be a last resort or something to rule out before you break up.
For couples therapy to be effective, it requires you to be accountable to yourself and empathetic towards your partner. By learning to be curious about your partner, you will let go of misinterpretations and start seeing things from a different perspective. Having the openness and flexibility to look inward, therapy requires you to be both vulnerable and accountable.
We will reflect on your past experiences because the past provides information about the present. The goal of therapy is to help each partner feel heard and seen. By the time you seek couple’s therapy, you or your partner may be feeling unappreciated and taken for granted. By learning a new way to connect with each other, the relationship will feel more fulfilling and satisfying.
Another component of the couple’s therapy is to increase positive interactions. When the relationship has been estranged for a while you forget to have fun together. We will create new routines that not only bring fun and laughter back into your relationship but these new routines and connections will align with the family values that will feel authentic to you. These small things will make big differences.
While you change the unhealthy and toxic dynamics in your relationship, you will experience a new sense of connection, one where you feel supported to show up as yourself and feel supported to follow your dreams.
Here’s what to expect:
The therapy process starts with a Free 20-minute consultation. You will have the opportunity to elaborate on your current experiences that you wish to address in therapy. You will also learn more about my approach to couple’s therapy and cost.
During the first 2 to 3 sessions, we will have the intake process where we gather all the information we need to create a strong and accurate plan for you as a couple. The comprehensive intake evaluation will help us identify the specific dynamics between the couple and help direct new conversations and interactions based on more honest feelings. This process is necessary to create an individualized treatment plan that will be successful in helping you revitalize your relationship.
On-going sessions are designed to strengthen the bond between you and your partner. The goal is not to remove all conflict but to give you the tools and insight that will help you get back on track faster and with ease. I utilize Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT), which has been recognized as an empirically proven form of couple’s therapy.
EFT focuses on expanding and increasing the moments of emotional responses of the couple. The goal of EFT is to create a secure emotional bond between partners through learning to be more open, attuned and responsive to each other. Couples learn to be emotionally available, empathic and engaged with each other, strengthening the attachment bond.
More About Me
Hi, I’m Dr. Boduryan and I am passionate about bringing you and your partner closer.
I received my bachelor’s degree in psychology from the University of California, San Diego Angeles and furthered my education with a master’s degree in psychology from Pepperdine’s University and a doctoral degree in clinical psychology from the California School of Professional Psychology. I am a licensed psychologist in the state of CA.
Therapy with me is the place to change your relationship patterns and strengthen the resilience of your partnership. Together, we will work on helping you break free from the vicious cycle of attack and isolation, and instead build connection and healthy attachment. In relationships, we move away from each other when we recycle old arguments. In couple’s therapy, you will achieve a true sense of closure and let go of resentment so that there is safety, trust, and honesty in the relationship to be vulnerable and rely on each other.
When you gain a deeper insight and understanding of the underlying dynamics in a conflicting situation, you will be more aware of triggers in the future. By anticipating future triggers, you will have the toolset to be proactive rather than reactive.
Who Benefits Most from Couple’s Therapy
Relationships at any stage can benefit from therapy. Whether you are seeking premarital counseling or relationship counseling, the couple’s therapy is about having a solid foundation. External stressors such as work and extended family member dynamics can take a toll on any relationship.
Couple’s Therapy is the right fit for you if you don’t just want to just float along and you have the desire for a relationship that enriches your life. You want to be able to turn to your partner for emotional support, connection, and acceptance. Creating new patterns in your life will ultimately lead to a healthier relationship moving forward.
You will benefit from Couple’s therapy if you are experiencing:
- Lack of trust, connection, and intimacy
- Difficulty resolving conflicts without attack and isolation
- Unhealthy patterns that create disconnection
- Difficulty being in the present because of past unresolved issues
When you seek therapy for your relationship needs, you will gain a sense of relief and lightness from letting go of resentment, criticism, and isolation. Making a relationship last takes work. Relationship skills are not innate and can be learned. You may have been investing all your efforts into solving the problem and improving your relationship, but skills learned in couple’s therapy sessions can support you and your partner in reaching your ideal relationship.
What does Couples Therapy cost?
Therapy for the treatment of relationship issues is a fee for service program, and I accept all major forms of payment. Please visit the Payment and Insurance tab under Getting Started for my session fees.
Due to my desire to make sure you maintain maximum privacy and wanting to provide you with the highest level of care possible without constraints from managed care, I am an out-of-network provider for all insurance panels; therefore, I am not affiliated with any insurance panel. Many PPO plans may reimburse in full or in part for my services. Unfortunately, HMO, Medi-Cal, and Medicare insurances do not reimburse as they require that you see someone on their panel.
Where and When Can I Schedule My First Session?
My office is conveniently located at 20501 Ventura Blvd, Suite 395, Woodland Hills CA 91364.
I also serve Calabasas, Agoura Hills, Tarzana, Encino, and the surrounding communities.
Your Next Steps
It feels like you have been turning away from each other for some time, but it is possible to learn to turn towards each other. You are deserving of giving and receiving love, compassion, and acceptance. It is possible to turn the estranged relationship to a close and united partnership.
You can absolutely have a relationship that is non-judgmental, supportive and loving. It is possible to learn relationship skills that will help you and your partner be more vulnerable, emotionally open and flexible.
To schedule an appointment for a couples therapy session, please fill out the contact form and I will respond no later than 24 hours to schedule our free phone consultation.